Monday, November 16, 2015

When Happiness Eludes You

One thing I learned about life is: When happiness eludes you, always remember that happiness is a choice. You cannot escape sadness and pain but you can always choose to be happy instead of depressing your self over things you cannot change.

FAKING SMILES. You fake smiles. You pretend to be happy so that people will stop asking why. You’ll be amazed to find out that you’ve still got reasons to smile.

HAVING A GOOD CRY. Sometimes, a good cry will help. It will not remove the pain but somehow it will ease the pain. Pain demands to be felt - a line from a book The Fault in Our Stars by John Green. You have to feel it until it pains no more. Do not be afraid of feeling pain. As humans, we are vulnerable and feeling pain is always a sign of being human. However, be careful of feeling pain. Don’t let pain numb you. It’s supposed to make you stronger but not make your heart numb and cold.

A SHOULDER TO LEAN ON. A sincere hug is a good encouragement. It means that other people care for you. It shows love and concern. However, there are still times when you feel alone and all you have is yourself. When that happens, just seize the moment! Enjoy the solitude. Hug yourself. After all, you really are not alone. Someone’s looking after you. A more powerful being that is greater than Depression and braver than Loneliness is watching over you.

Remember: We do not have to chase after “happiness” because true happiness does not need chasing. It is not something far away or unattainable. All we have to do is to be optimistic that after all the storms there will always be a rainbow. :)